Most of the show is focused on why male suitors don't liveup to her list of qualifications many consider immeasurable. It drives herrelationship expert Tionna Smalls nuts.
Though Chilli picked Bill as the winner of Season 1, it didn'twork out. But for Season 2, the dating process has intensified.
Hip Hop Media Training recently spoke to Chilli to discuss confrontingmillionaire boxing champ Floyd Mayweather about taking their relationshipserious, forcing matchmaker Smalls to change her game plans, and the blind datefrom hell her mother arranged.
HIP HOP MEDIATRAINING: You get heat because of your list. I think it's extreme, but feelthat if that's what you want, you should stick to it.
CHILLI: The list is not a pact for anybody. Those are thingsthat are important to me. And a lot of the qualities, I feel I bring to thetable myself. So I feel like I deserve those things back. Everybody should havea list. Have standards, that's all.
Things didn't workout with Bill. Why not?
I don't know why. You never understand that kind of thing. Youknow how that is? Before you got married, you obviously dated other women. Andmaybe they had a lot of great qualities, but it just wasn't that connection.Whatever that is that you feel with your wife, you didn't get that with anybodyelse.
This season, youaddress the fact that you want to have a baby. Was that really an emotionalmoment for you when the doctor told you that in some cases 1 percent of womenover 40 get pregnant?
I had heard about stuff like that, but to actually see it inthe face it was shocking. At the same time, there are women who are having healthybabies in their late 30s, early 40s with no problems. So I think it helps a lotwhen you take care of yourself. And there are a lot of women in their 20s andearly 30s that are having a hard time trying to get pregnant. I just don't knowabout those alternatives for me. You know, the freezing of the eggs, and the artificialinsemination. I don't knock anybody else because I know what it's like to wanta child. I wanted my son. I had him. Thank God he gave him to me.
One of the guys, thelong-haired guy in the teaser clip, was surprised that you brought up wantingmore children. Do you feel weird bringing up serious subjects in the earlystages of a relationship?
Absolutely not. I don't understand people with that becauseyou don't want to talk about serious things, yet you'll have sex with someoneon the second night. Like when I was on the date, I wasn't saying that I wantedto be with him or have a baby with him. These types of questions will come uplater on. You'll have the same answers, yet you'll have so much time invested.You should try to avoid that kind of stuff.
On last Sunday'sepisode you asked Floyd Mayweather, 'Do we just close the door?' Was one partof you saying, 'I hope something more could evolve from this?'
I kinda knew what kind of answer I was going to get. I justwanted him to man on up and say it because I know Floyd. Even though I know thegreat qualities he has -- his great qualities are the reason why we're able tobe friends -- I also know the other side that everybody else sees where he'stalking trash all the time and stacking $100 bills. All of that I don't like.So far as him being in a relationship with me, I wouldn't want him to be likethat anymore. I would never want him to change. I just want him to come on outand be straight forward.
You and Tiana are notalways in agreement. There have been some tense moments. You are not doingblind dates anymore. She brought Raphael to the table when you were out withFloyd. How are you guys working together?
Well that's all we did, work together. We're not girlfriendsor anything like that. It's definitely a working relationship. And yes, that'sit.
Well it's the truth. As far as the guys, I was like, Look,this woman is going to have to listen to me, otherwise there's no point in usworking together. I can't do no more blind dates. And, I definitely don't wantto go on dates with people she thinks are cute. We're not girlfriends so shedoesn't' even know me personally like that. She did listen this time which madeour relationship easier, so I had a hand in picking these guys.
What kind of man doesyour mom think would be good for Chilli?
[Laughs] My mom tried. This was years ago. There's thisdoctor. He does some type of dental work. She was like, 'Oh you have to seehim. He's so handsome.' I was like, 'Mommy, what does he look like?' My motherand I do not have the same taste. She was describing him, and it sounded likeit could have been a cool situation, like I may have been attracted to him. Iwent and saw this man. I was like, 'Oh my God!' I was like, 'Mommy, don't youever try to set me up.' He was out of shape. I could not believe her. I thoughtshe played a dirty trick on me.
What about your son, Tron?Has he told you what kind of guy he thinks would be good for you?
No. No. No. We don't really talk like that. I think healready understands what type of man I would bring around.
It's funny because my son, of course, knows Floyd because heknows that's my friend. But the first time he heard anyone talking about me andFloyd being an item he thought it was hilarious. He said, 'Mom, he's not yourtype.' He said it just like that. I thought that was funny. He knows.
I definitely thinkyou're on the right track. Good luck on Season 2. Is there anything else youwant people to know?
I'm very happy with people tuning in. I just hope that myshow is helpful with women realizing that it's okay to have standards, knowyour self worth, and be strong. I think men should be like that as well. I thinkall of us should challenge ourselves to be better people. So when you're abetter person, and you get to that point, why wouldn't you want somebody to beamazing to you because you know you're going to be amazing to them?
Where did yourattitude come from? The way you were raised or your own experiences?
A combination of everything. I definitely try to make it apoint to learn from everything. You don't always have to go through everythingyourself. You can take notes from other people and learn.
- Floyd Mayweather