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Newfound dad grateful for his daughter’s courage

Jason Sickles, Yahoo
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Solana Cortez and her biological father, Gary Fuller (Family photo)

“Did you think about me?” a woman on the other end of the phone line asked Gary Fuller.

The question came from the 27-year-old daughter he had never met. An ordained minister, Fuller is usually good with words but says her question had him babbling.

“The call was so emotionally charged, I hardly remember what came out of my mouth,” he recalls. “I wasn’t proud of so willingly bowing out and never pursuing her.”

In the summer of 1980, Fuller was a 20-year-old Northern California college student when he began dating a nurse’s aide at the convalescent home where he worked part time. The romance fizzled by the fall, about the same time his girlfriend learned she was pregnant. To further complicate matters, the woman soon became engaged to someone else. Back in school full time, Fuller complied when asked to sign away his paternal rights.

“I didn’t know if the pregnancy went to term. I didn’t know the gender, anything,” Fuller told Yahoo News.

Not until February 2009, when his daughter, Solana Cortez, finally found the right Gary Fuller.

Growing up, Cortez saw four stepfathers come and go. As for her biological father, her mother never spoke his name.

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“She would tell me it was in the past and to leave it there,” Cortez says.

But Cortez, whose curiosity grew stronger while she was earning a college degree in genetics, pressed on, searching the web with very little information to go on.

Then her mother finally caved to Cortez and turned over a Bible and a handwritten note Fuller had given her during their brief courtship.

“I assumed that she had gotten rid of everything and anything that had to do with him,” Cortez says.

Divine intervention? Perhaps. But the middle initial “D” on the note’s monogrammed stationery was pivotal.

“It still took me a couple of years,” says Cortez, who lives north of Sacramento. “You’d be surprised how many Gary Fullers there are out there. But I do believe it was a God thing.”

So does Fuller, who doesn’t mince words about his selfish days as a delinquent dad.

“It was a profoundly broken and messed-up situation,” says Fuller, a seminary graduate who has worked as a spiritual leader with a national Christian organization for 26 years.

He married and had three other kids. He rarely talked about his old girlfriend's pregnancy.

“It was like one of those rooms in your heart that you kind of don’t like to go there and open that door,” says Fuller, now 52 and living near Denver. “I wish I would have been wise enough through the years to understand the implications of what I did. … I basically signed a piece a paper saying I rejected a person.”

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Cortez, who turns 32 next month, has graciously put the past in the past.

“Your 20s are a pretty confusing time even without extra surprises,” she says. “I’m not saying it’s the right choice, but it’s easy to be scared and run away from something like that.”

The two have spent the past four years making up for lost time through weekly phone dates. Cortez has met her new brothers and sister and gone fishing with Fuller.

“We have almost the exact same handwriting,” Cortez says. “You couldn’t tell the difference.”

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Cortez is now recovering after a double-lung transplant. (Family photo)

The reunion has been a reality check in other ways, too. Fuller now knows he is a carrier of a mutated gene. Cortez has battled cystic fibrosis, a hereditary chronic disease that affects the lungs and digestive system, since she was 6 months old.

Her doctors had predicted death many times through the years. But four months ago, Cortez underwent a double-lung transplant and is on her way to making a full recovery.

Building a relationship with Cortez, Fuller says, “was initially a little scary, because here was this little gal that I wanted to get to know. Up until now I anticipated having to possibly bury this child.”

“It’s pretty cool not having to worry about how many years she may or may not have,” Fuller says.

Her promising prognosis and their budding father-daughter relationship prompted them to launch a website, solana-story.com, where they plan to provide information about cystic fibrosis and inspiration for parents and children seeking biological matches.

“I know not every story ends up happily, but at least you can get some answers,” Cortez says. “Like my one of my doctors used to say to me, ‘You prepare for the worst and you hope for the best.’”

This Father’s Day, Fuller is again thankful Cortez was brave enough to make the first move.

“I didn’t realize it, but I needed the healing that she would bring,” Fuller says. “Initially, I thought she needed me as a father, but I realized I needed her as a daughter, too.”

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